What’s up ladies and gentlemen, it’s Brad Browning here… this is going to be a pretty short video, but it’s one that I think a lot of you will find helpful, because it answers a question I get asked all the time.
If you’re watching one of my videos for the first time, then hello and thanks for tuning in. As I said, I’m Brad Browning, I’m a relationship coach and breakup expert. I’m known best for my best-selling Ex Factor program, which teaches readers how to win back their ex and re-build a lasting relationship. Learn more about me and my program at BreakupBrad.com.
For now, though, let’s move on to the topic at hand. Should you tell your ex that you still love them?
On the surface, it seems simple… of course you should tell your ex how you feel if you want to get back together with him or her, right? Shouldn’t you explain to them how much you still care about how much your heart is aching to get them back into your life?
It’s actually not as simple as it seems, though. Most of the time, the answer to that question is actually NO. Telling your ex that you still love them isn’t going to help you win them back. It might make you feel better in the short term to get those feelings off your chest and out in the open, but your ex is unlikely to change his or her mind… in fact, that kind of stuff usually just makes things more complicated and hurts your chances of getting back together.
In most cases, you do NOT want your ex to know that you want them back or that you’re struggling to cope with the breakup. On the contrary – you want your ex to think that you’re done with the relationship and you’re moving on to bigger and better things. You want to make sure your ex knows that you’re not a desperate, heartbroken loser… and that if he or she won’t take you back, you’ll have no problem finding someone new to take their place. I know that may not be the truth, but giving off that impression is going to make you far more attractive in the eyes of your ex. It’s the opposite to what they’re expecting you to do, and it always makes them think twice about their decision to break up, second guessing themselves and wondering if it might’ve been a mistake to let someone like you walk out of their life. I know this because I see this strategy work for my coaching clients on a daily basis, and it’s worked for thousands of people from around the world who’ve signed up for my Ex Factor program.
This isn’t really about playing mind games and trying to be dishonest with your ex. This is just what you need to do if you want to change the perception that your ex has of you. If your ex broke up with you, there’s probably things that he or she didn’t like about you or your relationship… essentially, their attraction to you faded to the point where your ex decided that it wasn’t worth staying together. So now you need to help them forget about those doubts and re-focus on the positives… you need him or her to begin chasing after you, deciding on their own that the breakup was a bad idea after all. Simply telling your ex you love them is absolutely not going to do that, and if anything it will just make you seem needy or clingy when really you want to give off the opposite impression.